Patterns

Gaslighting and how it can impact you

By Sylvia Lafair | April 17, 2019 |

Gaslighting is a hot topic these days.  Many people are victims of gaslighting without even knowing it.  It affects your sense of self-worth, your confidence, and your sanity. Have you ever spent time with a narcissist or a sociopath? You can sense them from their cunning and self-importance. They are the opposite of fine wine.…

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How the Pattern Breakthrough Process Creates Change

By Sylvia Lafair | February 6, 2019 |

Here at Ceoptions we have been using our signature pattern breakthrough process to create lasting change and help today’s leaders prepare for the inevitable challenges that come their way. Question: How does a 13- year- old boy scoring points for his basketball team connect with his mother climbing the corporate ladder? Here’s the story recently…

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Communication rules to help you experiment and break the old patterns

By Sylvia Lafair | January 1, 2019 |

The new year is the perfect time to start looking at breaking old patterns on communication. In this post I cover a few communication rules that will help you to have your best year. Do you ever pay attention to how we greet each other? Like, ‘how are you’ and the answer is almost always ‘fine.’ What…

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How to sustain growth and become a better version of you

By Sylvia Lafair | December 26, 2018 |

In this article I share my thoughts about how to sustain growth and become a better version of you. Are you hearing bells yet? There will be a lot of people chanting, ‘Ring out the old and bring in the new. That’s the motto I am starting to hear with only a few days left to embrace…

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My thoughts about the major change in gender relationships

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2018 |

Here’s an idea for a special gift for the gals in your life. It’s one of those gifts that keeps on giving for the rest of the year. Now, I’m not bragging (although I do teach women that it is okay to ‘toot your own horn.’ It’s just that I received an email from a…

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Which one are you: Overwhelmed, Overworked or Frustrated?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 11, 2018 |

Did you ever wonder if men feel as overwhelmed, overworked, and frustrated as women do, on a daily basis? I did some digging to find the answers. I spent time looking at the three areas of what it means to be overwhelmed, overworked, and frustrated. Here is what I found. OVERWHELMED Let’s look at being…

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The most valued gift for the holidays…is YOU

By Sylvia Lafair | November 27, 2018 |

In this post, I’m pondering the thought of what is the most valued gift for the holidays? This is the time of year for both fun and family. Yet, sometimes, the two words don’t really go together. Wouldn’t it be better if when you sit around the family table you were supported and delighted? And, even…

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Have a heartwarming and growth-inducing Thanksgiving

By Sylvia Lafair | November 20, 2018 |

I am writing a heartfelt message to hopefully help make your Thanksgiving time as positive and fruitful as possible. First, here is a quote from retired Supreme Court Justice, Sandra Day O’Conner: The Family unit plays a critical role in our society And in the generations to come. In all the work I have done…

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Transforming Splitters into Peacemakers

By Sylvia Lafair | February 27, 2018 |

Identifying and transforming splitters into peacemakers is the topic of this post.  As you’ll see in my story, they can be tricky to spot and oftentimes it isn’t until they’ve done their dirty work. Did you ever get sucked into some juicy gossip and then see it backfire? UG! That’s what happened to me. And…

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How to know if he or she is a denier

By Sylvia Lafair | February 20, 2018 |

I recently received a curious email asking for help. Most of the time I get questions about work and leadership issues. This one is a bit different however it does fit into the patterns I’ve been discussing on the blog here. Dear Dr. Sylvia, You know that last week was Valentine’s Day. Well, you know,…

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