Summary: Do you want to be able to see what you can’t see? There are ways to make the invisible visible. Keep reading.
What can you do to make positive changes when you cannot see what is wrong?
That is to say, can you use a magnifying glass or an x-ray machine to help?
Above all, what helps to see through all the words and the silence when it comes to emotions?
For example, think of it as a magic trick. You know, you see it, then you don’t.
The eyes have a blind spot and so do your emotions.
For example, there is a part of your eyes that has no image detection. For the most part, human eyes report to the brain with an accurate picture. What you see is what’s out there.
EXCEPT…
Each human eye has a blind spot, and the brain fills in what is there by looking at the surrounding areas.
How do emotional blind spots develop?
When it comes to emotions, we have blind spots too.
They often developed when we were children. After all, we learned about life, what is safe, and what is not safe back then. We tend to deny what is not in our best interests and, like a magic trick, we see it and then we don’t.
We want magic to take over.
For instance, do you remember, as a child, wishing on a star for something unique to happen?
You know, a miracle will make everything better. So, we stop looking at the problem and wait for our fairy godmother to sprinkle some magic over us, and voila la, no more problems.
It takes self-awareness to see emotional blind spots.
That is to say until nothing changes and we begin to point fingers and blame him, her, or them.
As a result, when you ignore feelings and block experiences because they are unpleasant or confusing, they become a blind spot.
You become a “not see” (say that fast and shudder).
What can you do about these hidden places where you get stuck in the mud?
Weaknesses and Strengths are connected.
Moreover, I say, leverage your strengths AND challenge your weaknesses.
Much of the literature about leadership development requests that you play to your strengths. However, only playing to strengths can be the cause of much unnecessary trouble in life.
If your past success becomes your only approach to solving problems and if you insist on replicating your success repeatedly (often using the exact words and mannerisms) in new situations, you will eventually lose.
It’s guaranteed.
Think about it this way. Just being big, being very, very big, was not enough to keep the dinosaurs alive.
In other words, working with your weaknesses as well as your strengths is called adaptability. And this is one of the ways to get past your blind spots.
Blind spots are gone!
Leverage your strengths AND your weaknesses.
The Game of Tennis and The Game of Life
Think about Serena Williams for a moment.
Is her toss, serve, forehand, or backhand the strongest? Whether you play tennis or not, learn from a master of the court.
If she only perfected what she was best at and most comfortable with, would she have become such a formidable tennis star? Perhaps she would have been good, really, really, good, but maybe not great.
Those I know who are excellent at tennis (not me) often say the backhand is the most challenging. However, in tennis and life, many games are lost because while strengths are leveraged, weaknesses stay just that, weaknesses.
And on the emotional side, it is more than just taking a stand for what you believe, more than just hitting the problems with a more complicated force that comes into play.
Think about Serina again, she learned to master all the ways to hit that ball, and she also became a master at both attitude and intimidation.
She saw ALL sides of the game, physical, mental, and emotional.
Learn from those who play the game of life the best. Master the challenging areas that need to be strengthened and ask for help to see those blind spots that get in the way.
My Pattern Breakthrough Coaches and I can help you see what is invisible, the blind spots that cause overwhelm or self-doubt.
No need for burnout or anxiety because you cannot see clearly what your next steps could be. Contact us for a strategy session.
Here’s to your success; keep going and keep growing.
Sylvia
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