Sylvia Lafair
What are those whispered words that haunt you even when no one is talking? These words show up at the most annoying times. They’re the ones that live in your head, like uninvited guests you can’t get rid of. Each of you, yes, you, and you, and you, have certain stuck phrases. And no matter…
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Before super achievers can listen to themselves or others, they need to know how they got to be so exhausting, annoying, and demanding in the first place. Here’s how the super-achiever pattern was addressed with a new coaching client, Dan, a Senior VP in a large marketing company that offers leadership development courses for senior executives. He said this about himself, which much initial pride, “Hey, I always have to be…
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Are you (or someone you know) an avoider? You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?†We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…
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Summary: Feedback started with report cards and still leaves most of us with an anxiety knot when we have performance reviews at work. Today we’re going to talk about an area of communication that makes most of us shudder. To clarify. It’s all about feedback. For example, the way you give it has ramifications, and…
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Hi everybody! Well, today is one of my favorite subjects, “The Jerk at Work, Not Meâ€. It’s out there. It’s always out there. We’re never the jerks at work. Are we? Well, you never know, but here’s what I’d like to do. I’m going to give you a sentence that you can use. Craft it…
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Do you ever get frustrated with petty conflicts at work? You’re not alone. A whopping 93% of workers report being affected in a negative manner by conflict. The other variable is the length of time consumed by on-going, unresolved conflict. Even worse is the fact that litigation for workplace harassment and hostile work environments has…
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Learning how to understand people especially when you are ready to make a quick decision is an important skill. How many times have you looked at a boss, colleague or direct report and said to yourself, “Why did they do that?†And this was said with frustration and even dismay. Were you curious to find…
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Hi everyone! I’m so glad you are here with me. Today is about communication. Of course, we all learned to talk, but the big question is more about communication than merely spilling out a word salad. How Many of Us Have Learned How to Communicate? Let’s delve into how to communicate to captivate. Captivate means…
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Hey! This is for all the gutsy women out there. All of us who are here to make change happen, to make the world a better place, to make our lives more fulfilling. This is for all of you and all of you who have joined my women leaders inner circle. I so appreciate it…
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Time to get your communication skills upgraded. Let’s start with a quiz. What are the two most annoying words that we all misuse? Don’t cheat and look at the end of this. Just keep reading. It will make more sense that way. Here’s the story Carol told me about a situation at work. It locked…
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