Sylvia Lafair
Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am filled with self-doubt. I am wondering if this is just a “gal thing. †In other words, do the males of the world also worry about their abilities? Do they worry about the way they come across to others? For example, so many I talk with (once we break the…
How to have a positive mindset. Stay tuned. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Look, we’re all human. Right? As a result, we all have good and bad personality traits. Right? Firstly, I want to know how to have a positive mindset. On the other hand, I want to know how do you change your mindset from negative…
Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’m not sure how to say this politely. This year has been a frigging mess. Not just for me, for so many I know. What really matters in life. To clarify, I’ve been lucky that no one in my immediate circle has come down with the virus. Yet, we all know someone who has…
Dear Dr. Sylvia, Do you remember the popular song from “My Fair Lady?†The one with the following words “Why can’t a woman be more like a man? â€It goes on and on about male superiority. Above all, it really seems a bit old-fashioned these days when women are gaining strength at work, at home,…
How to get stress relief during times of chaos and confusion Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am really learning about how the physical and emotional worlds collide. I always felt the two were separate. You get sick, it’s from a bug in the atmosphere. You become angry or depressed. It’s because someone out there made you…
Dear Dr. Sylvia. I hate to complain, but my boss is driving me totally crazy. He is smart and knows the science behind what we do, however, as a leader he is just plain awful. For example, He is always telling us how great he is. He brags about how many awards he has won,…
Summary: Elections happen all the time. Here is a way to think about who you want to vote for and support. How do we know which candidates have self-awareness and are emotionally intelligent? Elections are part of our lives. From high school campaigns to national elections, there is always someone who wants your vote. How…
Summary: Saying NO often causes extreme stress. It is one of the essential words in any language. Here are practical communication skills that keep you strong when NO is the correct response. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have so much trouble saying no. I don’t like to upset the apple cart, rock the boat, be unpopular.…
Summary: How do you stand for what you believe is right and be heard? Speaking truth to power takes courage and determination. Here are some thoughts to consider when you make your own decision. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I built a remarkable career over the past 15 years. I was considered a high potential emerging leader,…
Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please? In addition, you also talk about…