Sylvia Lafair

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How to become an elegant truth teller instead of a people pleaser

By Sylvia Lafair | January 16, 2018 | Comments Off on How to become an elegant truth teller instead of a people pleaser

Summary: Do you worry that too many of your employees are people pleasers? They do whatever you say and never speak up or challenge you? Here are some ideas for you. When you or others fear speaking up it causes stagnation. That’s when creativity is nowhere to be found. For instance, you want your team…

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How to harness the drama queen and turn it into story telling

By Sylvia Lafair | January 9, 2018 | Comments Off on How to harness the drama queen and turn it into story telling

One of the main behavior patterns that is showing up strong these days is the Drama King/Queen. So many people have emailed me, just this week, asking how to harness the excess noise that comes with drama people at work and home. And the most frustrated are those who see how social media can become…

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Let’s vision 2018 as a year of hope

By Sylvia Lafair | December 26, 2017 | Comments Off on Let’s vision 2018 as a year of hope

Here is my wish for you, for all of us, as we get ready to release the old and ring in the new. Would you say its been a roller coaster year? It’s hard to process all the political dramas, climate challenges with hurricanes and fires, terrorist attacks, sexual harassment allegations, along with the usual…

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If you’re a rescuer, it’s time for a change

By Sylvia Lafair | December 17, 2017 | Comments Off on If you’re a rescuer, it’s time for a change

If you (or someone you know is) are a rescuer, it’s time for a change. STOP! Relax. Just chill. Don’t do anything. Take care of yourself and forget about helping others. Take a break from saving the world. If these words bring a big sigh coming all the way up from your gut you’re listening…

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How to Transform the Victim into the Explorer

By Sylvia Lafair | December 12, 2017 | Comments Off on How to Transform the Victim into the Explorer

Have you noticed that the more persecutor/bullies lash out the more the victims of their nastiness go to hide under the bedcovers? I don’t often feel like a victim, however, I had an employee who was the bossiest witch always telling everyone in the office what to do, on her terms. One day I hung…

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How to effectively say “No More” to the persecutor

By Sylvia Lafair | December 5, 2017 | Comments Off on How to effectively say “No More” to the persecutor

Summary: Here’s how the Persecutor (aka bully) stays in charge until someone (as in you) or (as in me) says STOP. Firstly, a true story: Dina told me in our coaching session that she did not think of herself as pretty. A bit overweight and with, as she said, dull, wispy hair, she was always…

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Know a procrastinator? Here’s how to move them in the right direction

By Sylvia Lafair | November 29, 2017 | Comments Off on Know a procrastinator? Here’s how to move them in the right direction

Here is an email that I just received and want to respond immediately. As in, right now. It’s incredibly perfect for the pattern I want to discuss this week, the procrastinator. First, the email: Dear Sylvia, Thank you for contacting me. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I hope this gets…

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Rebels Turned Community Builders

By Sylvia Lafair | November 21, 2017 | Comments Off on Rebels Turned Community Builders

Let’s look at the difference between a rebel who fights for what is right and how that rebel can turn into a community builder, helping all of us move to new heights of thinking beyond just right and wrong. I specifically want to look at the women of today who are saying “no more!” It’s…

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Diving deep in the World of the Super Achiever

By Sylvia Lafair | November 14, 2017 | Comments Off on Diving deep in the World of the Super Achiever

Lately I’ve been getting lots of questions and frustrated comments about the BIG SHOTS of the world, the super achievers. Many want to know how to get these blowhards to “zip it” and others want to know how to become larger than life like these often very talented (yet often very insecure) individuals. So, here…

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The pattern of destructive entitlement

By Sylvia Lafair | November 7, 2017 | Comments Off on The pattern of destructive entitlement

Last week I wrote about Harvey Weinstein and the long term cultural reasons for his outlandish manish behavior. I received so many responses that I see I hit a nerve. One of you asked some very important questions regarding family. Think, for a minute, about the subtitle of my book “Don’t Bring It To Work,” which…

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