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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 | Comments Off on Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?†We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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What to do when life seems out of balance

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2019 | Comments Off on What to do when life seems out of balance

Everyone is telling me this year has more stress and strain than in the past? You agree? “Why,†people are asking, “is life so much more out of balance now?†I must admit, I’m not sure. However, I have a hunch that all the social media stuff is really making us kinda crazy. I was…

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Is it Really the Season of Joy and Fun?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2019 | Comments Off on Is it Really the Season of Joy and Fun?

It’s officially the season of joy and fun…Or is it? We are programmed to be happy, merry, and filled with love and appreciation.  So, why are there so many who have inherited a black cloud filled with rain or snow that clings no matter what? If so, you are not alone.  Make you feel better? It’s good…

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Can people with high emotional intelligence still be assholes?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 29, 2019 | Comments Off on Can people with high emotional intelligence still be assholes?

Here’s a question that comes up way too often. Before I state the question let me set the context.  Do you believe the leaders at your organization are good and positive people? Can you talk with your team and feel there is mutual respect? Have you ever been bullied by a brilliant boss?   Now the question: Can people with high emotional…

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3 Key Ways to Win at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | October 1, 2019 | Comments Off on 3 Key Ways to Win at Work

My work with individuals and groups over the years has helped me to uncover 3 key ways to win at work when you’re feeling frazzled and ready to throw in the towel. Have you found that at one time or another you wanted to stuff a sock in someone’s mouth rather than listen to them…

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How do you stay calm, cool, and collected?

By Sylvia Lafair | July 30, 2019 | Comments Off on How do you stay calm, cool, and collected?

When the heat index goes way into the red zone how do you stay calm, cool, and collected? Here is a composite of the types of emails I have been getting the past month, mostly from the east coast of the U.S. and from much of Europe. It goes something like this: “It’s too hot…

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These 3 habits may be keeping you labeled as mega-stupid

By Sylvia Lafair | July 8, 2019 | Comments Off on These 3 habits may be keeping you labeled as mega-stupid

Summary: Who do you work with you think is a dumb ass? Here are ideas to move beyond judging and make a positive difference at work. Everyone has their idea of what “stupid” means. Someone who you will never ask for advice. Did you ever take the time to sort out the different levels of…

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Are you a maximizer or a satisfier…take this simple test

By Sylvia Lafair | April 24, 2019 | Comments Off on Are you a maximizer or a satisfier…take this simple test

How do you decide what to decide? There is a great line in the play Into the Woods that we have used in our Total Leadership connections program that shows how so many of us wait to let others make decisions while we stand on the sidelines waiting for a signal for our next move. Picture Cinderella…

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Gaslighting and how it can impact you

By Sylvia Lafair | April 17, 2019 |

Gaslighting is a hot topic these days.  Many people are victims of gaslighting without even knowing it.  It affects your sense of self-worth, your confidence, and your sanity. Have you ever spent time with a narcissist or a sociopath? You can sense them from their cunning and self-importance. They are the opposite of fine wine.…

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Gutsy or Bold, Are You Ready to Take a Step Forward?

By Sylvia Lafair | January 23, 2019 | Comments Off on Gutsy or Bold, Are You Ready to Take a Step Forward?

What does it take to make the leap? Whether you’re gutsy or bold, are you ready to take a step forward? I was reflecting on the physical or emotional cost when you take a GUTSY or BOLD step out of the old ‘this is the way it is meant to be’ mentality. I was thinking…

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