Communication

Lost in Logic™: When Leaders Ignore the Voice Beneath the Data

By Sylvia Lafair | November 13, 2025 |

Summary: Here is a more complete way to view your behavior at work. In the new leadership science, your head analyzes, your heart connects, and your gut predicts. When they’re aligned, decisions flow. However, if they’re not, chaos follows. Read on for new ideas. Dear Dr. Sylvia, It’s all my fault! I was the final…

Lost in Childhood ™: How One Leader Faced His Past Before It Finished Him

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2025 |

Summary: Most leaders don’t realize this, but destructive workplace behaviors rarely begin at work. They begin in childhood, long before the corner office, long before the first promotion, long before the first glass of wine at a client dinner seemed like no big deal. Keep reading. This is a need-to-know issue important for long-term success.…

Glimmers, Leadership, and Alignment: The New Trifecta for Whole-Person Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | November 4, 2025 |

Summary: We all know what triggers feel like, those moments when something small sets off a big emotional storm.But what about the opposite? What about the micro-moments that bring you back to yourself? Here’s how head, heart, and gut coherence can turn ordinary leadership into something extraordinary. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am dedicated to helping…

The Martyr at Work: How Childhood Hypervigilance Shapes Adult Professional Behavior

By Sylvia Lafair | October 23, 2025 |

Summary: Many people grow up in unpredictable homes, where moods shift without warning, where you have to “read the room” to stay safe. In those environments, children often learn hypervigilance: a heightened awareness of potential threats, emotional cues, or shifts in tone. It’s a survival strategy that keeps individuals alert and adaptable. Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

The Ugly Middle: When Conflict Gets Messy (and What to Do About It)

By Sylvia Lafair | October 9, 2025 |

Summary: Every leader wants conflict resolution to occur as quickly as possible. Few are prepared for the ugly middle, where things get confusing. Here’s how to stay grounded when you feel frustrated and hopeless. Dear Dr. Sylvia, The entire world seems to be fighting all the time. There is no middle ground. I often feel…

The Spark Leaders Don’t Know They Need

By Sylvia Lafair | September 25, 2025 |

Summary: Leadership is often painted as a game of strategy, data, and grit. But ask the best leaders what guided them at critical crossroads, and the answer is rarely found in a spreadsheet. They’ll say, “I just knew,” or “something told me,” or “it clicked in my gut.” Here is why GLIMMERS are so crucial…

Stop Arguing, Start Listening: The Giants of Dialogue Show Why Their Work Matters More Than Ever

By Sylvia Lafair | September 17, 2025 |

Summary: How do you answer when someone starts a conversation with, “How are you?” Many of us give the typical knee-jerk response, “Fine, thanks.” When you enter into a debate, is it with boxing gloves on, ready to win rather than lose? Neither way works in the long term. Here’s what makes a difference. Dear…

Stop Overthinking and Start Talking: Why “Letting Them Be” Isn’t Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | July 31, 2025 |

Summary: You’ve heard the advice before:  “Just let them be. ”You can’t change people. “Ignore them and move on.”Sure, there’s a time for inner work. There’s also a time to get off the meditation cushion and actually speak up. Let’s get real: thinking about how you feel isn’t the same as doing something about it.…

Beyond the Bank: Why It’s Time to Redefine Net Worth as Human Worth

By Sylvia Lafair | July 29, 2025 |

Summary: The term “net worth” was invented by economists to assess financial value. Fine. Let them keep it in their spreadsheets. But somewhere along the way, society hijacked the term and started using it as a proxy for who matters and who doesn’t. Here is another way to think about “net worth.” Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

Oversharing at Work: When “Being Real” Turns Really Awkward

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2025 |

Summary: Let’s talk about oversharing. It’s that awkward moment when someone turns a team meeting into a therapy session. You’ve seen it. You’ve cringed. Maybe (gulp) you’ve even done it. Welcome to the land of Too Much Information (TMI) at work. Today’s world of stress has this population growing fast. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Why do…