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Hope Can Survive During This Christmas Time (Even When It’s Complicated)

By Sylvia Lafair | December 23, 2025 |

When the holidays feel heavy, hope can survive. A compassionate reflection on loneliness, grief, divorce, and finding steady ground at Christmas.

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Speak Up Like a Leader: Your Responsibility Is to the Room, Not Just Your Ego

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2025 |

Learn how to speak up in toxic leadership cultures, address bully bosses, and communicate truth with clarity, dignity, and real influence without fear or fallout.

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The Leadership Blind Spot: Fear of Finding Out, and What It Costs You

By Sylvia Lafair | December 15, 2025 |

FOFO, or fear of finding out, keeps us stuck in avoidance, denial, and distraction—making small issues grow bigger. Learn how to recognize the subtle signals, regulate your nervous system, and take brave, manageable steps to face the truth and reclaim your agency.

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How Wise Leaders Survive the Holidays (and Don’t Lose Their Minds, Their Teams, or Their Health)

By Sylvia Lafair | December 10, 2025 |

Learn how business leaders survive holiday stress with clarity, and ways to protect energy, support your team, and lead wisely.

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Would You Rather Be Happy or Right? The Question That Changes Your Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | December 8, 2025 |

Discover why the question “Would you rather be happy or right?” can transform your leadership by reducing stress, improving communication, and strengthening relationships.

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Patterns Escalate at This Time of Year: Complete Them or Repeat Them, Your Choice

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2025 |

Explore why family patterns escalate during the holidays and learn simple shifts that transform your reactions, relationships, and leadership.

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The Patterns We Pass

The Patterns We Pass at the Thanksgiving Table: A Lesson in Leadership, Love, and Letting Go

By Sylvia Lafair | November 24, 2025 |

Summary: Thanksgiving has a way of shining a spotlight on the people we love most and the patterns we pass around, but would prefer to keep in the pantry with the canned cranberry sauce. Let this year be a day of gratitude and learning. Keep reading about how to make this time with family and friends…

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The Power of Clarifying Questions

By Sylvia Lafair | March 6, 2025 |

Transforming Conflict Into Win-Win Solutions Summary: In the heat of a conflict, our natural response is often to judge, blame, or attack (what I call JUBLA), and then we move to the next level, to defend, explain, or justify (DEJ) our position. These are traditional methods in most cultures. Resolving conflict was to punch, jab,…

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Leveraging Systems Theory to Resolve Workplace Conflicts

By Sylvia Lafair | May 2, 2024 |

Summary: We all know that conflicts are inevitable. Whether they arise from differences in opinion, conflicting goals, or misunderstandings, these disputes can impede productivity and damage working relationships. However, by adopting a systems theory approach, organizations can navigate these challenges more effectively. This fosters collaboration and harmony among team members. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am…

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Pay Attention to What Makes YOU Happy

By Sylvia Lafair | April 23, 2024 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I want to become a “glimmer gatherer.” You seem to be on a roll with fun ideas on how to follow your heart and also be successful. Please let me know what led you to this direction? I am at a crossroad in my career and need some new ideas as I…

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