Patterns
Summary: How to become more self-aware is vital for workplace productivity. Here is what you can do. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My boss is driving me crazy. I want to help and be a great colleague. However, what he is doing makes no sense. Could you help me understand? For example, He ignores those who want…
Read MoreSummary: Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Your home and your mind! Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have always been a leader, and I am known as “the boss who is not bossy.” Indeed, that’s good.…
Read MoreSummary: Why is it hard for so many to say NO? If it means people are upset with you, what can you do? Here are some ideas to stay calm and not be derailed by your insecurities. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Many of my executives complain that they are exhausted and feel overwhelmed because they can’t…
Read MoreWhat are those whispered words that haunt you even when no one is talking? These words show up at the most annoying times. They’re the ones that live in your head, like uninvited guests you can’t get rid of. Each of you, yes, you, and you, and you, have certain phrases that are stuck. And…
Read MoreBefore super achievers can listen to themselves or others, they need to know how they got to be so exhausting, annoying, and demanding in the first place. Here’s how the super-achiever pattern was addressed with a new coaching client, Dan, a Senior VP in a large marketing company that offers leadership development courses for senior executives. He said this about himself, which much initial pride, “Hey, I always have to be…
Read MoreAre you (or someone you know) an avoider? You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…
Read MoreIt’s that time for new resolutions. Right? You know, the ones that usually become old in a week and absolutely stale by the end of the month. “Change,” I hear you say, “change is tough.” And it is. EXCEPT There is one new resolution you can make that will reap tons and tons of rewards.…
Read MoreHi everyone! I hope you’re having a glorious day even though everything seems overwhelmed and rushed, and we can’t move fast enough, and we can’t please everybody but nonetheless we just keep persevering, right? Except, sometimes we feel submissive compliant filled with self-doubt, create self-sabotage. Those days, everybody does it and what happens is, it…
Read MoreThere’s a great game… Whoops! All right, I got it all set now. There’s a great game that you can play at Thanksgiving dinner. It’s called, “Connect the dots.” So, here’s how it works: Sit there and as you listen to people, think about who do they remind you of… there’s your uncle sitting there.…
Read MoreSummary: Self-doubt is like an infection that only has one cure. That means you must change your mindset, until you, through your own free will, can release the nagging thoughts and be both strong and capable of leading with clarity and passion. Dear All, Recently, I received many emails from women executives plagued with self-doubt.…
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