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Pattern Clash: When The Jerk At Work Meets The Jerk At Work

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2015

“I work hard” he muttered. I could barely hear him. “You do WHAT?” I asked. “Work hard. I told you, I work hard.” It seemed to him like no one ever really listened. He went on to say that he was sick of spending his nights correcting his boss’s awful grammar for her reports that…

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Naughty Can Become NICE

By Sylvia Lafair | December 16, 2014

The road was slick from the rain. I did not want to complain because the Bay Area needs to fill up its rivers and reservoirs as fast as possible. None the less, when a car swerved just a bit too close for comfort I shouted out from that place inside that activates stress “Watch out…

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Leadership Development: SHUSSSSH Don’t Rock The Boat

By Sylvia Lafair | December 15, 2014

Imagine a world where bringing up unpleasant or conflictual subjects is applauded. Imagine if in school good grades were based on asking the unaskable. Just imagine. Where would YOU fit in that kind of setting? Would you be one to ask “Hey, why is the emperor naked?” Or would you be one to put your…

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Talk Of Torture Timely For Leadership Development

By Sylvia Lafair | December 14, 2014

What a bummer that Angelina Jolie will miss the opening of the film “Unbroken” that she directed. Sadly, she missed the chicken pox as a kid and has to break out and itch as an adult. However, the timing of this film is placed perfectly. With Dick Cheney in great confidence saying he did not think that our country…

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Holiday Stress Starts Early This Year. Here’s Why And What To Do About It.

By Sylvia Lafair | December 8, 2014

Summary: Did you ever wonder why the end of the year holidays causes so much stress? It is essential because of last year’s restrictions on staying at home. Here is “the why” for many and also ways to handle holiday stress more effectively. Dear Dr. Sylvia, How do I get year-end work done, prepare for…

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Turkeys And Eagles

By Sylvia Lafair | November 26, 2014

Did you know that Benjamin Franklin was not all that thrilled having the Bald Eagle as our national symbol? He much preferred…TADA…the Turkey!! So as you are celebrating this day of Thanksgiving think about the noble bird that could have been on our currency instead of on the table!!! Here is a letter that Franklin…

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4 Rules For Great Leading During The Holiday Season

By Sylvia Lafair | November 23, 2014

Imagine yourself as the most loved leader in your organization. Imagine being honored at a dinner for your skills and talents. What would they say about you? How would you respond? Leading a team and getting your direct reports to really, really want to get follow you takes lots of deep internal understanding of yourself.…

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They Are ALL Our Children

By Sylvia Lafair | November 23, 2014

Years ago I was in Brazil for a conference. It was wonderful looking up at the “Christo Redentor” that is so much a part of Rio. It was fun sun bathing and walking along the famous Ipanema beach. I also had an opportunity to go inland to some of the mines where the crystals are…

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How Do You Prepare for Thanksgiving?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 21, 2014

Thank you to Jeannie Mecorney, a Total Leadership Connection graduate, for sending me this fun ditty to launch the holiday season. I belong in the “vegan camp” this year. Our nine-year-old granddaughter is a staunch vegetarian, and we are learning more and more in that direction. So, I will let you know what great and…

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Safe Spaces, Hot Spots And What If

By Sylvia Lafair | November 17, 2014

Waiting in Ferguson Missouri. Waiting for the judge to hand down the decision. Waiting to see if there will be violence or calm. Waiting to see how justice is served. Waiting to see if there can be anything new and helpful that will come out of how the people of Ferguson handle a tense and…