Posts Tagged ‘conflict’
How JUBLA (Judgment, Blame, or Attack) Will Make You Angrier and Keep You Feeling Like a Victim, And What to Do About It
Summary: When things don’t go as planned, it’s all too easy to slip into patterns of judgment, blame, or attack (JUBLA). These behaviors, however, are toxic. Not only do they escalate conflict, but they also keep you locked in a cycle of anger, frustration, and victimhood. Learn to move from victim to explorer using pattern…
Read MoreManaging Emotional Triggers at Work: How “The Clown” Can Block Team Collaboration and Cause Frustration
Summary: Workplace dynamics can be challenging, especially when emotional triggers go unchecked. One of the most common—and often misunderstood—roles that surfaces under pressure is “The Clown.” This individual, while seeking to bring levity, often derails important conversations with ill-timed jokes that frustrate and disengage the team. Here we explore how “The Clown,†as discussed in…
Read MoreWhat To Do When Conflict Effects Culture Emotionally As Well As Fiscally
Summary: Pay attention to those glimmers, good or bad, that you can feel in your gut. They are there to direct you to make changes so you don’t get stuck in overwhelm and burnout. These glimmers are like an internal GPS helping you navigate a positive life path. These glimmers are game changers. Find a…
Read MoreThe Splitter: How One Toxic Personality Can Lead to Absenteeism, Lawsuits, and Lower Productivity in Your Organization
Summary: When someone pits people against each other everyone loses. In any organization, the presence of a “Splitter” can wreak havoc, leading to a cascade of issues, including increased absenteeism, costly lawsuits, and low productivity. Understanding this destructive behavior is crucial for leaders who want to maintain a healthy workplace. Here we delve into the…
Read MoreTurning Drama into Harmony: How the Drama King/Queen Can Transform a Negative Relationship
Summary: In every social circle, workplace, or family, there often exists a “drama king” or “drama queen”—those individuals who seem to attract or even thrive on conflict and tension. While their behavior can be frustrating and exhausting for those around them, there’s a silver lining: with the right approach, drama kings and queens can channel…
Read MoreHow to Create a Winning Situation with the “Petty Tyrant” at Work
Summary: Navigating the workplace can be challenging, especially when you have a “petty tyrant” as a colleague or manager. These individuals can make your professional life difficult with micromanagement, criticism, and unreasonable demands. However, there are strategies to turn this challenging situation into a winning one. Here’s how you can effectively manage and thrive despite…
Read MoreThe Hidden Power Play: How the Powerless Yield Power Over Others at Work
Summary: Power, just saying the word brings up so many images. Parents, pointing the finger to send you to your room. Having a boss tell you, you’re fired. Yet, it isn’t always wielded by those with the most authority or the loudest voice. Often, individuals who feel powerless within themselves can exert a surprising amount…
Read MoreMastering the Art of Debate
Summary: Debating is a crucial skill, not just for formal settings but also in everyday life. Whether you’re in a professional environment, a classroom, or even at a family gathering, knowing how to effectively argue your point can set you apart. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I hate arguments. I harbor dislike for “right” and “wrong.” There…
Read MoreNavigating Workplace Conflict: Turning Challenges into Opportunities
Summary: What keeps most leaders up at night is when conflict continuously flares up. Personalities clash, stress levels rise, and external pressures infiltrate the workplace. If you find yourself dealing with the same conflicts repeatedly, your leadership style might be contributing to the problem. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am exhausted. The conflict at work doesnt…
Read MoreFatal Flaws Are Patterns That Keep Us Stuck in Childhood Muck
Summary: Childhood is a critical period of development where individuals learn and internalize behaviors, beliefs, and coping mechanisms. These early experiences significantly shape our adult personalities. This includes the fatal flaws that may hinder our success and happiness. A fatal flaw is a character defect that leads to significant challenges or failures in life. Understanding…
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