Leadership Patterns

Hanneke Faber: Turning Curiosity Into Organizational Change

By Sylvia Lafair | September 24, 2026 |

Summary: What if meaningful organizational change begins not with a grand strategy, but with a leader who notices what others may have overlooked? Hanneke Faber’s leadership offers a powerful example of how curiosity, adaptability, and a willingness to challenge the familiar can create meaningful transformation. Some leaders enter an organization with a five-year plan already…

Royal British Brothers and the Family Pattern That Keeps Repeating

By Sylvia Lafair | September 15, 2026 |

Summary: Three generations. Three pairs of brothers. And one question every family eventually faces: What happens when loyalty to someone you love collides with responsibility for the larger family? We tend to watch the Royal Family as though it were a very expensive television series. But look beyond the crowns, castles, scandals, and headlines, and…

Your Family Medical History Isn’t Just About Disease: What Leaders Need to Know

By Sylvia Lafair | September 10, 2026 |

Summary: The patterns you inherited might matter more than you think. You’re sitting in a doctor’s office filling out forms. Heart disease in the family? Diabetes? Cancer? High blood pressure? Important questions. But there’s another family history we almost never get asked about: How did your family handle being sick when you were growing up?…

The Most Dangerous Sentence in the Workplace: “That’s Just How I Am.”

By Sylvia Lafair | September 1, 2026 |

Summary: There’s a sentence I’ve heard in executive team meetings, family businesses, and coaching conversations for decades: “That’s just how I am.” That sentence is almost guaranteed to shut down conversation and creativity for good. Here is another way to think and respond. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My leadership team is stuck in an “either/or” argument…

Still Playing Hide-and-Seek? What You’re Hiding May Be Running Your Life

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2026 |

Summary: Remember playing hide-and-seek? You covered your eyes and counted to ten. Everyone ran. Someone squeezed behind the sofa. Someone crawled under the bed. And there was always that one kid who found such a brilliant hiding place that everyone eventually forgot where they were. Then came the words, “Ready or not, here I come!”…

You Change Your Underwear Every Day, So Why Are You Still Wearing the Same Old Patterns?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 12, 2026 |

Summary: Let’s start with a question that you don’t get asked often, if ever: When was the last time you changed your underwear? Hopefully, this morning. Most of us wouldn’t dream of wearing the same underwear day after day. We also replace worn-out socks, buy new shoes, upgrade our phones, and trade in cars that…

Stop Calling People Toxic. Start Looking for the Patterns.

By Sylvia Lafair | August 4, 2026 |

Summary: We hear these phrases everywhere. “She’s toxic.” “He’s impossible.” “Stay away from people like that.” Social media is overflowing with advice about identifying toxic people, avoiding toxic relationships, and eliminating toxic employees. Sometimes that advice is necessary. Abuse, manipulation, and repeated harmful behavior should never be ignored or tolerated. But what if the label…

The Courage to Lead with Self-Awareness: The New Zealand Connection

By Sylvia Lafair | July 31, 2026 |

Summary: When people think of strong leaders, they often picture someone who is loud, commanding, and always certain. But some of the most effective leaders possess a different kind of strength. Here is what a more mature leader does. Former New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern demonstrated that leadership begins with self-awareness. She showed the…

What America’s First Leaders Still Teach Leaders Today

By Sylvia Lafair | July 2, 2026 |

Summary: Every generation believes its leadership challenges are unique, but they’re not. Technology, politics, and markets may change over the years, yet human nature changes very little. Here’s what you need to know to lead in today’s chaotic world. As we prepare to celebrate Independence Day in the United States, I found myself going back,…

Strategy Is Logical. Stress Is Biological.

By Sylvia Lafair | June 23, 2026 |

Summary: Most leadership problems are not caused by a lack of strategy. They are caused by stress. Organizations spend millions teaching communication, conflict resolution, and decision-making skills. Yet when pressure rises, even smart leaders often react in ways that surprise themselves. Why? Because strategy is logical, and stress is biological. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am…