Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on. Two levels to declutter…. Your home and your mind!
“Dear Dr. Sylvia,
I have always been a leader, and I have been known as “the boss who is not bossy.”
I guess that’s good.
I always like to include others in decision making.
However, being at home with my wife and two teens has been anything but pleasurable.
Their grumpy manner finally got to me and I created a family project. I was/am in charge.
My wife took a back seat and simply watched as I maneuvered this project like I was at work, where people really listen to me.
The project was to declutter the house.
I know that wonderful Japanese author, Marie Kondo wrote “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” and talks about the virtue of a decluttered home.
However, she really doesn’t talk about how to harness the power of a girl who is 14 and a boy who is 17 who hate being on the same team and annoy each other to their limits.
I apologized to my wife who has put up with more of their GOTCHA Games than I do. I told her I should have been more involved sooner.
But, I digress…..
What I learned as we cleaned out the cabinets, got piles together to take to Goodwill, was the following, and it’s what you have been teaching for years and years.
The clutter in your mind is as important to get rid of as the clutter in your home.
I now see that all the work I have done with your organization about behavior patterns and pattern repetition is really to declutter your mind.
I had a really amazing talk with my kids about this as we cleaned the closets and made the space in the house feel calm and expansive.
We talked about why they are such jerks to each other and how that patterns of GOTCHA could become so ingrained they would take them to work and there, it could mean lost opportunities for promotion or creative collaboration.
Honestly, to my surprise, they listened.
They asked questions, they wanted to learn.
So, please can you send a copy of your e-book GOTCHA to me (signed would matter) so I can go over it with my teens.
And just FYI, my wife was able to leave us to our education and get some of her work for her high– powered leadership job done without begging for peace and quiet.
My new theory is to do both:
Declutter your home and get it organized
Declutter your mind and get it organized.
Thanks in advance for the book, and thanks for all the great info about these dang patterns that we need to purge and transform.
The NOT Bossy Boss