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The Power of Clarifying Questions
Transforming Conflict Into Win-Win Solutions Summary: In the heat of a conflict, our natural response is often to judge, blame, or attack (what I call JUBLA), and then we move to the next level, to defend, explain, or justify (DEJ) our position. These are traditional methods in most cultures. Resolving conflict was to punch, jab,…
Read MoreValentine’s Day Reflection: Hearing the Words Within your “Heart”
Dear All, Have a sweet and caring Valentine’s Day with your loved ones. Along with flowers and chocolates, here are some thoughts to consider. Valentine’s Day is a time for love, connection, and deep listening—not just with our ears but with our hearts. Ultimately, it’s a day when words carry more meaning. Think about when…
Read MoreFacing Irrevocable Change and Navigating Tough Times
Summary: Change, of course, is an inevitable part of life, but some changes hit us harder than others. These are the seismic shifts—the ones that feel irrevocable, reshaping the foundation of our world. Whether it’s losing a loved one, a significant career upheaval, or moments being caught in the extremes of climate change, that’s when…
Read More3 Ways To Stop Destructive Patterns From Ruining Your Career
Avoid falling into the same rabbit holes of doubt Dear Dr. Sylvia, Why, oh why is it so hard to change destructive patterns? From my time in the Total Leadership Connections program, I know that I can fall into the same rabbit hole again and again. For me, It’s the Persecutor/Bully Role. When I am…
Read MoreLeadership Development and Whose Fault Is It Anyway? Are YOU a YABBUT or NOT?
Summary: There are many books about how to survive a toxic workplace. The big question is: Who makes the work setting toxic? Most of the books point the finger of blame at the boss or supervisor. Many books and sites about office politics are about what he, she, or they did that was insulting and…
Read MoreA Collaborative Journey to Success: How Direct Reports Can Talk Truth to Power and Help Their Boss Be More Effective
Summary: In the workplace, a hierarchical dynamic often characterizes the relationship between direct reports and their leaders. These power differences can create challenges regarding open and honest communication. But speaking truth to power is essential for a transparent and collaborative work environment. This can significantly enhance a leader’s effectiveness. Direct reports hold valuable insights about…
Read MoreWhat to Look for in Executives as Role Models So Work Cultures Can Thrive
Summary: What separates an ordinary executive from one who serves as an exceptional role model? Whether you’re a business leader, an emerging professional, or part of a hiring committee, selecting a suitable executive role model is crucial for fostering a positive organizational culture. Here’s what matters. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I had an odd experience with…
Read MoreThe Dichotomy of Power: How Emotionally Powerless Leaders Seek External Dominance
Summary: Leaders are often seen as paragons of strength and confidence. Yet beneath this façade, many grapple with feelings of powerlessness. This emotional turmoil can significantly impact their leadership style, prompting a compensatory quest for external power. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for fostering healthier leadership and organizational cultures. Dear Dr. Sylvia, One Senior Vice…
Read MoreWired Connections: Drawing Parallels Between Power Grids in Electricity and Human Relationships
Summary: Just as electricity powers our modern lives through intricate networks, human relationships form a dynamic grid that sustains our social fabric. Let’s explore the fascinating parallels between the power grid in electricity and the complex web of connections that bind us as humans. Dear Dr. Sylvia, The other day, we had a blackout in…
Read MoreTimeless Keys to Leadership Success in 2024 and Beyond
Summary: The role of a leader is akin to a seasoned captain navigating uncharted waters. The challenges are diverse, the environment is dynamic, and the expectations are higher than ever. Let’s unravel the timeless keys to leadership success that transcend the fluctuations of trends to look at basic requirements. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Firstly, I hope…
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