Conflict Competence: The Answer to Your Stress

Stressed out? Conflict competence is the solution. Read on to learn more…

Dear Dr Sylvia,  

I have a question. I need more than just a simple answer. 

Therefore, what I am asking for is a solution. 

Further, I need an action plan. 

As a result, if you can do that, I will follow you forever. 

To clarify, let me say, if you cant help I will delete you and look elsewhere. 

If that sounds mean, I’m sorry.

On the other hand, I hope you are up for the challenge.

Can you change stress to positive energy?

Most importantly, here’s the question. 

QUESTIONIs there a common denominator for stress?  Why are most of us filled with stress much of our lives? 

I’m waiting for your answer. 


SO (aka stressed out) 

Become conflict competent to lower stress

Dear SO, 

Most importantly, I’ll cut to the chase.  

ANSWER: Just one word…Conflict. 

Above all that’s the answer.  It’s either internal or external conflict. ‘Nuff said. 

As a result, , you asked for a solution. Here it is. 

Conflict is natural to all life

SOLUTION: There are two main routes to conflict competence. They always exist underneath the stress. Yes, under what triggers you are ways to stop the stress. You can go beyond those to knee-jerk ways of stuffing down your upset or shouting it out. There are ways to harness overwhelm, self–doubt,  and burnout. Do you want to go beyond physical discomfort, mental frustration, emotional angst, and fractured relationships?

Above all, you MUST become conflict competent. 

Moreover, here are the two best ways to lead you from stressed to serene. 

Click here for mindfulness training with Daniel Goleman. Start reading Don’t Bring It To Work on Amazon.

CONCLUSION: Ask yourself this: How do you juggle all the demands on the home front as well as at work? Know there a way to keep everyone happy, and nothing crashes and burns. It starts with you.

The way OUT of arguing is calm communication

Firstly, you MUST learn the way OUT of unnecessary conflict and excessive stress. You do this by observing, understanding, and then transforming your habitual patterns.

Secondly, learn about what is underneath the obvious that makes you repeat behaviors that don’t and won’t work anymore. 

In addition, you must handle the quick reactions that kick in and make you respond too fast. It happens before you even decide if it’s the best way to react.

In the same vein, what makes you smack the side of your head saying, “Why’d I do THAT again?”  

In conclusion, here is the ACTION: My new Stress Busters online program is a combination of education and entertainment. Along with the course are opportunities for coaching. Go from being conflict AVOIDANT to conflict COMPETENT. It’s time to handle your excessive stress now. and forever. 

Hope this helps. Hope you still have me in your data base.

Here’s to your success, 


P.S. Get Started: Take the Stress Quiz to see how stressed you are daily. 

P.S.S. Fast Lane: If you’re a go-for-it type sign up for the course  right now while it’s still on sale. 

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Sylvia Lafair

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