What’s Your Current Stress Level?

By Sylvia Lafair | April 15, 2020 |

How stressed are you? On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being “I can’t take much more” to 1 being, “Huh, what is there to be stressed about?”  Just remember that extremes are never sustainable.   Where you want to be is between 4-6 which I have labeled “The SAFE STRESS ZONE.”  Here is how I developed ways…

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What are your usual coping mechanisms?

By Sylvia Lafair | April 1, 2020 |

I did a survey asking the following question: What are your usual coping mechanisms?   Take a minute and answer it for yourself.  The responses I received went from “Eating junk food” to “Playing games online” to “Binge-watching “Tiger King” to “Mixing a batch of martinis” and on and on.   Most responses were about indulging in one way…

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7 Ways to “Practice Safe Stress” during times of confusion and chaos

By Sylvia Lafair | March 25, 2020 |

What do you do when others are driving you nuts? When you can’t seem to catch your breath because so much is being asked of you? When you must change your schedule to please others who claim to need you ‘right now’?   Do you go on the attack and say whatever comes to mind to…

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Finding Peace of Mind During These Uncertain Times

By Sylvia Lafair | March 18, 2020 |

Here is one email among many that are all requesting the same thing: peace of mind. Here is the email and how I responded.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am almost frozen with fear. The news is awful, my health is fair, my finances are poor and my ability to look at this time as a “learning experience” is dwindling. …

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Have the Rules for Competent Leaders Changed?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 11, 2020 |

Have the rules for competent leaders changed over time?  Has social media and the fast pace of the world made the qualities of what real leadership is so different?  I say NO.  I spent time researching what the leaders of old did to keep projects moving quickly. I spent time looking at what was expected…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 |

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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Get the BUT Out of Your YES

By Sylvia Lafair | January 29, 2020 |

Do you ever get frustrated with petty conflicts at work? You’re not alone. A whopping 93% of workers report being affected in a negative manner by conflict.  The other variable is the length of time consumed by on-going, unresolved conflict.  Even worse is the fact that litigation for workplace harassment and hostile work environments has…

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How to Understand People…At Least Some of the Time

By Sylvia Lafair | January 22, 2020 |

Learning how to understand people especially when you are ready to make a quick decision is an important skill. How many times have you looked at a boss, colleague or direct report and said to yourself, “Why did they do that?” And this was said with frustration and even dismay. Were you curious to find…

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Time to Upgrade Your Communication Skills

By Sylvia Lafair | January 15, 2020 |

Time to get your communication skills upgraded. Let’s start with a quiz. What are the two most annoying words that we all misuse?  Don’t cheat and look at the end of this. Just keep reading. It will make more sense that way. Here’s the story Carol told me about a situation at work. It locked…

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Communicate to Captivate: How to Talk Truth to Power

By Sylvia Lafair | January 9, 2020 |

This month is dedicated to communication, to telling the truth without spilling your guts, or for some, letting go of the truth festering inside because of the fear of retribution, and getting past the upset.   There is a better way…  Based on so many calls and emails I have gotten in the past few months,…

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