Posts Tagged ‘conflict’
Tom Brady, Microsoft Tablets, and Work/Home Relationships
Summary: Few things seem more different than the worlds of work and home. However, it is a myth that we can separate them. Stress in one area often tumbles into the other. Here are some tips for creating a better balance. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Yesterday I did what I now call “A Tom Brady move.” …
Read MoreThe Benefits of A Difficult Conversation
Summary: If being judged makes you uncomfortable, here are some ways to structure a feedback session for success. Who do you think has the most challenging time with feedback? Is it the giver or the receiver? Most leadership development programs focus on how the giver, the leader, discusses feedback with the receiver, the employee. The…
Read MorePeace Tools NOT Pistols (or any other weapons of destruction)
Summary: It is critical to look “upriver” to solve the polarization and violence we are now seeing at work, at home, and in our communities. Dear … I am getting so many questions from leaders and emerging leaders about the polarization of our society and the number of attacks on innocent people that I want…
Read MoreIt’s Time to Transform Splitters into Peacemakers
Summary: There is so much disagreement in today’s world. Much of it is due to the behavior pattern of separating people into being “for” and “against” each other. Do you know a splitter (or are you one)? Here are ways out of the tangled web that causes the split for hate and even war to…
Read MoreThe NOT SEE Movement, And Critical Thinking: What You Need To Know
Summary: How can leaders respond to the newest round of books banned in schools? What questions can we ask and what happens next? I received an email that sent me into a tailspin. It’s about what children are learning in school. More importantly, it’s about what they are not learning. Here is the email and…
Read MorePandora, Stress Management, and Hope
Here is a timely story for this holiday season. It starts with a wedding gift. So far, so good. It was a gift from Zeus to the gorgeous young bride, Pandora. However, Zeus put Pandora in a double bind. You see, while she received this beautiful box (actually, in Greek mythology, it’s a jar). The…
Read MoreWhat YOU Can Do If Your Direct Reports Hate Your Guts!
Summary: “I hate my boss” is a common comment in most workplaces. How do you know if you fit the category? Here’s the litmus test. Being a Boss Means YOU Must Handle Conflict at Work You’ve received a promotion. Congrats. You feel confident and ready for the challenge. That is to say, you’re now the…
Read MoreLeaders, Are You Burning Up (Anger) or Burning Out (Exhaustion)? Here’s What To Do.
Summary: As a leader do you shout out your anger or shut it down? Either way can be costly to your health. Soon, overwhelm causes you to shut down. Here are ways to turn your anger inside out and move past the extremes to more effective ways of working together. The energy of anger is…
Read MoreAre You Emotionally Intelligent?
Dear Dr Sylvia, I have been reading a lot about emotional intelligence recently. My first question is, ‘what is emotional intelligence?’ Actually, I think it is about the capacity to control and express oneself and handle interpersonal relationships with ease, Am I right? I think so. Therefore, I would love to hear your answer to…
Read MoreConflict Competence: The Answer to Your Stress
Stressed out? Conflict competence is the solution. Read on to learn more… Dear Dr Sylvia, I have a question. I need more than just a simple answer. Therefore, what I am asking for is a solution. Further, I need an action plan. As a result, if you can do that, I will follow you forever. To clarify, let me say,…
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