Posts by Sylvia Lafair
Leadership Strategies: Letting change take you where you need to go
An email I received recently got me to thinking, again, about change. It’s truly all you have , any day, every day. And yet, it causes constant stress and anxiety. Here’s what was sent to me: Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know some people call you Dr. Transformation which implies you are a master of letting…
Read MoreWhat really matters
This week’s article is a bit different. It’s about how all of us, you and you and you and I, can ignite a new dialogue about what really matters. Now, this is not a preachy, sermon type blog. It’s about rethinking the patterns of behavior that are getting in the way of successful relationships. I…
Read MoreCoping with stress and frustrations in the workplace
What do you do when you’ve had enough, and you just can’t look at one more project or help one more person solve an angry dispute at work? Here’s 4 tips to coping with stress and frustrations in the workplace. Some of us go outside to puff on a cigarette (you betcha there are lots…
Read MoreWhy You Must Learn to Trust Yourself First
Did you ever have to “out” someone who is scamming you? What do you do when you finally see that there are some real jerks in the world taking advantage of you? When you can finally pull back the curtain, only then can you make the changes that need to be made for progress to…
Read MoreAre you a maximizer or a satisfier…take this simple test
How do you decide what to decide? There is a great line in the play Into the Woods that we have used in our Total Leadership connections program that shows how so many of us wait to let others make decisions while we stand on the sidelines waiting for a signal for our next move. Picture Cinderella…
Read MoreGaslighting and how it can impact you
Gaslighting is a hot topic these days. Many people are victims of gaslighting without even knowing it. It affects your sense of self-worth, your confidence, and your sanity. Have you ever spent time with a narcissist or a sociopath? You can sense them from their cunning and self-importance. They are the opposite of fine wine.…
Read MoreMaking Relationships Work
Making relationships work rather than putting them into an early grave takes thoughtfulness and intention. If you’ve ever found yourself entangled in a less than ideal relationship with someone in your personal or professional life this will help you make sense of it all rather than throwing it all away. Let me share a recent…
Read MoreI’m back from my radical sabbatical
I’m back. Yup, back from my radical sabbatical and raring to go. Now, I know that most of us can’t just say “Gone fishing” or “Gone camping” or “Gone shopping” for a month. That is unless some difficult illness or family issue rears its ugly head. And that is certainly not a fun way to…
Read MoreHow the Pattern Breakthrough Process Creates Change
Here at Ceoptions we have been using our signature pattern breakthrough process to create lasting change and help today’s leaders prepare for the inevitable challenges that come their way. Question: How does a 13- year- old boy scoring points for his basketball team connect with his mother climbing the corporate ladder? Here’s the story recently…
Read MoreGutsy or Bold, Are You Ready to Take a Step Forward?
What does it take to make the leap? Whether you’re gutsy or bold, are you ready to take a step forward? I was reflecting on the physical or emotional cost when you take a GUTSY or BOLD step out of the old ‘this is the way it is meant to be’ mentality. I was thinking…
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