Posts Tagged ‘patterns’
How to Reduce Stress at Work: Avoid Toxic Social Narcissists
Summary: We live with fake news, general rancor, sizzle and sparkle, slander, and superficiality. As leaders, you must look at the information you receive more intently. Here are ways to judge if someone is here to help or hinder long-term success. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I watched a recent 60 Minutes segment that was chilling. It…
Read MoreWe All Tell Lies, Which Type of Liar Are You?
Summary: We have all heard “the truth shall set you free,”; yet, lying is a daily occurrence. Read on to see which pattern, from fibs to fraud, fits your personality and, more importantly, what to do about it. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I don’t know who to believe anymore. When I ask my direct reports about…
Read MorePeace Tools NOT Pistols (or any other weapons of destruction)
Summary: It is critical to look “upriver” to solve the polarization and violence we are now seeing at work, at home, and in our communities. Dear … I am getting so many questions from leaders and emerging leaders about the polarization of our society and the number of attacks on innocent people that I want…
Read MoreIt’s Time to Transform Splitters into Peacemakers
Summary: There is so much disagreement in today’s world. Much of it is due to the behavior pattern of separating people into being “for” and “against” each other. Do you know a splitter (or are you one)? Here are ways out of the tangled web that causes the split for hate and even war to…
Read MoreAre Self-serving Narcissists More Prevalent Now?
Summary: Everywhere you look, people are taking sides at the expense of how their behavior impacts those around them. You best be careful, and please don’t feed the narcissist beast. Here are the signs. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I did it again! Yup, seduced by a fast-talking marketing gal. I signed up for an expensive program…
Read MoreLeadership Lesson: Careful, The Art and Craft of Seduction is Everywhere
Summary: It’s easy to be flattered. The big question is, how do you respond to all the bells and whistles coming your way? Here’s what to know, so you don’t get scammed. These days everyone is talking about the newest hits on Netflix. One is a charming male who seduces unsuspecting females (watch The Tinder…
Read More3 Ways to Go From Overwhelmed to Energized (Yes, It’s Possible)
Summary: Do celebrations and holidays often leave you feeling overwhelmed. Here are ways to stay calm, enjoy all the festivities, and avoid being branded a Debbie/Donny Downer. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I get overwhelmed so easily. For example, every time I think of getting ready for a family birthday, anniversary, or the upcoming holidays, you know,…
Read MoreHow Successful Leaders Handle Stress and Family
Summary: The powerful mother and daughter relationship impacts all adult relationships. You can change your behavior once you do a deep dive into how you and your mother forged a bond in your childhood. How do successful women do it? Did you ever think about what it means to be a grown-up and a child…
Read MoreI’m Not Pattern Blind
Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please? In addition, you also talk about…
Read MoreHow to See Your Emotional Blind Spots
Summary: Do you want to be able to see what you can’t see? There are ways to make the invisible visible. Keep reading. What can you do to make positive changes when you cannot see what is wrong? That is to say, can you use a magnifying glass or an x-ray machine to help? Above…
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